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What does it feel like for two virgins to have sex?
I am a twenty four year old woman who will be getting married to my twenty five year old soon to be husband in three days. Both of us are virgins and have never had any form of sexual contact with ourselves (masturbation). I was wondering what our experience will be like coming from the point of view of those who lost their virginity to another virgin. Will either of us know what to do? Will instincts kick in? How badly will it hurt especially if he also has no experience? Please be descriptive, thanks.
- Why not schedule an appointment with your OB/GYN and you can both discuss this with them. See if they can refer you to a sex therapist for a more in-depth discussion of this issue.21
- like watching two black guys swim12
- It was back in 1974 when my future husband and I were both virgins when we had sex and we both enjoyed it10
- Basically, the same as two non-virgins. I wouldn't recommend looking to porn to learn how to have sex (for either of you) but there are instructional guides and videos that might help. Otherwise, practice makes perfect. Communication is key. Sex can be embarrassing and you'll probably elbow each other and he'll probably pull your hair and there will be gross sounds and liquids etc. But it's a lot of fun.
I'd first recommend starting with sexual activities that isn't intercourse. So handjobs + fingering - or more accurately, your soon-to-be husband learning how to stimulate your clitoris, since 75-80% of women can't orgasm via penetration - so if that happens, don't worry, it's normal to not feel much. (There are very few nerve endings in the vagina - they're all in the clitoris). Learning what makes you orgasm can be tricky for some people, especially if you haven't masturbated or made yourself orgasm before. For me, for example, I can only orgasm via clitorial stimulation and holding my breath (since holding your breath intensifies the sensations - a potentially useful tip. Just don't make yourself faint), some people can only orgasm in a certain position or with specific stimulation (e.g. breast/nipple stimulation), etc. So, learn how to pleasure yourself and then you can teach your partner. And vice-versa.
Sex is only painful when the woman's not aroused enough (or if you have a condition such as Vaginismus, but it's not that common). Lots of foreplay. If your partner can make you orgasm via clitoral stimulation (or oral sex) first, that's ideal. If not, perhaps you can make yourself orgasm? Orgasming loosens/relaxes the vagina and you obviously produce more lubrication). That, combined with lots of stuff like kissing, touching, etc., and gentle fingering (to stretch the vagina a bit, since the vagina is like a muscle - like exercising, if you don't warm up it'll put stress of the muscles and be sore afterwards), will do the trick. Foreplay should last for at LEAST 15 minutes.
Stuff to remember:
1) The hymen is stretchy - it should stretch. Take it slowly, make sure you're fully aroused (full arousal means that the vagina self-lubricates and expands from around 3" to about 7"), and if it hurts, make sure to stop and take a few minutes and do some more foreplay and add some lube if needed.
2) There shouldn't be any blood. If the hymen DOES tear (which it shouldn't unless it's stretched too quickly or you force your penis in, etc.), there are very few blood vessels in it, so it won't be that. Blood will likely be from a vaginal tear (friction within the vagina, such as a penis rubbing against dry or too-constricted/tight vaginal walls).
3) Make sure both of you are relaxed, calm, take it slowly, use protection, and enjoy yourselves! Communication is super important during sex (and relationships) so if something hurts or is uncomfortable, tell him, and try something else (a different position, more lube, go back to foreplay, etc.)10
- That's the best way to have it! You know your spouse won't be comparing you to past rentals (excuse me: FWBs).00
- Like peeling a bruised banana with your ear.02
- like a chinese fire drill........you dont know if you are coming or going00
- Short answer, it will feel good for both of you.
It will be exciting and nerve wrecking but you'll get to feel these things together. Don't expect a mind blowing orgasm from penetration alone. It rarely works that way. Don't feel insecure if he can't preform. Practice makes perfect.00
- Its the best thing in the world, for two people who are in love with each other, who can trust each other to have sex, Its beautiful. As far as the hurting goes, sometimes when women has a hymen, it may hurt a little. If it hurts bad, that shouldn't be, but the hymen should cause very little pain.00
- It's just the same as when anyone else has sex, only you'd likely both be nervous.
Like with all new sexual partners it will take time to figure out each others likes.
Sex should not hurt - if it hurts you know something is wrong so you stop, the idea that sex is supposed to hurt the first time is a myth: that's not to say that it can't/won't happen but that it shouldn't and so if you do feel pain you know to stop to address the problem rather than feeling you have to carry on to tolerate the pain. It's sex 101; you need to know basics about how your body and arousal work, what to do if you experience problems during sex, and how to have pleasurable sex.
With all due respect, you're not a child and thus you are more than capable of learning about sex - obviously instincts do go so far in that you do what feels good, but there's a lot more to sex and sex education is important for healthy pleasurable sex. There are many reliable sex education resources available for you to learn about sex, no excuse for not learning this earlier!
First Intercourse 101 - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual...
From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/f...
40 Places To Learn Everything You Never Heard In Sex Ed - http://www.buzzfeed.com/nataliebrown/pla...50
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