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For gay men. When you first realized you were gay but before having gay sex or using sex toys, were you worried you wouldn't like it?

Not trying to be a jerk, but I'm writing a gay YA character in a story and am wondering if "I'm heavily attracted to your masculinity but what if I hate anal sex" is a believable motivation.

No, this was not my situation. I was always attracted to other guys and found everything about them to be attractive. I would always think to myself that it would be awesome to have sex with classmates and other guys I found attractive. When I finally did have sex with my boyfriend, it was amazing and more than I had hoped for.

Never.

Not all gay men have anal sex

No. Not something that occurred to me. If your character is apprehensive about anal, have them do something else.

I never realized I was gay. I would say one of the first men I felt an attraction to was Race Banyon on the Johnny Quest cartoon. I didn't understand what was going on and I didn't really think about it. When I saw Race on the screen I feel warm and maybe a little tingly inside. That's how it started for me. As I got older it was seeing cowboys on TV and when I saw them in their underwear or without a shirt I felt more excited. The first time I saw Batman I kept looking at his bulge and at Robin's bulge. It was after that when I started to look at adult men, and I would get excited looking at their hairy chest and their muscles and I would peek at their penis in a public bathroom.

It was all very gradual. When I learned about gay sex I could not wait to try it. BTW not all gay men have anal sex. A lot of gay men don't do it or don't enjoy it. I have even met some gay men who only like masturbation or frottage. Frottage is just rubbing against another person until you have an orgasm.