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How do i cope with people's perfect lives?

seeing people living the perfect life makes me question the purpose of life...what's the point of living if will be constantly reminded about the things i will never have?...

they say life is a gift.. yeah sure..if you're parents are rich or life works out for you great...what about for the rest of us? we didn't ask to be born and certainly didn't ask to have a crappy life, what are we suppose to do?

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I had the exact thought you had when the girl I liked rejected me. And so every time I go to work when I see her I am constantly reminded of what I don't get to have in life. But I also thought that to "THINK" is a lie unto life. Life will always be the way it is and our thoughts are so separate from reality that it is like white and blue. Two different things, there is no such thing as a "class" or "race". And we get depressed over man made concepts that should never even control us in the first place. Furthermore, if that was what you desire than you should work hard towards it. I personally feel that to sit there and stew in your negative thoughts is a "choice".

Well, anon', first we could sharpen up our English skills. Coincidentally, that does impress employers, which can lead to a good job/career, and the "perfect life" you seem to desire because it involves "things." Personally, Tad does not believe that life should be all about "things" - instead, it is about being happy, and doing good things for others. Wealth is only perfection for some. To waste time in worry over what was does not have is a fool's game; the best aim is to strive for that perfection, or readjust your definition of a perfect life. Peace.

Having material things will not make you happy. Happiness is a state of mind
that exists inside your head. Take those movie stars, for instance. Always
breaking up, getting divorced. On drugs, having to go to rehab. Getting plastic
surgery trying to hold on to their youth, instead of growing old gracefully.
It just goes to show that they value the wrong things. Some of them have
assistants and maids, and as a result the monster comes out in them, and
they forget how to treat people, and start ordering them around. Be glad of
your humble ways, it's much more becoming. I don't know if you're religious,
but God likes humble people better too ! Whether you're a believer, or not,
the Bible does have some worthwhile philosophies to live by.

By realizing that nobodies life is perfect.

No matter how it seems everyone has issues, insecurities and other stresses.

Start realizing they don't have perfect lives.

delete facebook and stop going on social media and your life shall be perfect too... you're living in a self made prison...

you have to remember that very few people live a perfect life at all... all you see is what you're meant to see...
they may look supremely happy in public, but they have just as numerous problems, worries, hang-ups, neuroses and unhappiness as the rest of us...
being jealous is pointless...
all most of us can ever do is work hard, and try to make your life as happy and as full as possible...

you sound like a weak-minded, immature person... grown-ups don't obsess over the lives of others...
if you're not happy with your situation, put on your big boy pants and make a change... go to school, get a degree, then get a tefl certificate and move to a country with a tropical beach... happiness achieved...

you ignore them, you work a job, you get a good education to get a good career of your passions, and you live out your life through you and not them... besides as much as they for show, show how happy they are for public views, their really not that happy... it's a ruse to look good in front of others... the more happier they look and the further they put themselves out there, the more it shows their lonely for friends, attention, and are unhappy... it's a proven fact that happy people usually keep it to themselves and don't go out gloating about it to the world to see... remember, ignorance is bliss...

stop looking at others! "your focus determines your reality"... visit a third world country for a while and see if your life is as hard as you think, then notice the attitude the locals tend to take about life as compared to where you live (probably the usa)... learn to appreciate where you are and what you have, whether little or much...

finally, try to stay away from debt like the plague, as much as possible, and learn to distinguish between what you really want, and what other people want, which has nothing to do with your reality or who you are, even if they are close friends or family...

of course this reflects my values, may not reflect yours...