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Do I have anxiety?

Ever since I was 12 I have always been very anxious. I put it behind me because I'm a people pleaser and I didn't want people thinking I was a wuss so I acted tough and created an "alter ego" to hide myself behind. At that stage the panic attacks hadn't started yet but I was quite anxious about most things.

I'm now 13 (turning 14 soon) and I feel much, much worse. I recently got into a lot of trouble with my mom and I ruined my relationship with her completely. Everyday now I'm so worried that people are saying nasty things about me and my family. I worry about whether my mom will approve of the people I am sitting with at lunch. I wonder whether my mom will be happy if I got 39/40 instead of 40/40 for a math test. But not everything is about my mom; cars make me super anxious because I was in a car accident and I wasn't wearing a seatbelt, nowadays I cannot sit in the front seat, regardless of who I'm driving with because I am so afraid of it happening again.

I find myself not being able to sleep properly because I'm busy worrying about things that could go wrong. If I do manage to get a good sleep, I have usually had some sort of nightmare that I could not wake up from and usually wake up crying or in a cold sweat.
Most adults intimidate me and I cannot talk to most without crying mid-sentence.

I've seen the school therapist about this, but I want a proper diagnosis.

Please answer, this "anxiety" is literally taking over my life.

excuse my grammar x

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Yes, it sounds like anxiety.

"I put it behind me because I'm a people pleaser and I didn't want people thinking I was a wuss so I acted tough and created an "alter ego" to hide myself behind."

MY ANSWER: There are so many people in this world and they have different opinions about everybody. If you pretend to be someone you are not to please people, it could work at first but no one can wear a "mask" forever. Sooner or later, you have to get rid of this "mask" because your face would be sweating, you would feel nauseous and would get tired of wearing it. Why do you have to make a useless effort facing the consequences of wearing the "mask" all the time?

"I worry about whether my mom will approve of the people I am sitting with at lunch. I wonder whether my mom will be happy if I got 39/40 instead of 40/40 for a math test."

MY ANSWER: Why do you worry so much about the woman who raised you and kept you alive for 13 years? She should be a fun and understanding companion, not the cause of your worries. It is up to you who to sit with or what type of friends you choose to have. Your choice. Your life. About your math test, why should your mom get mad if you don't get a 100% but got 98%? They are only grades and as long as you know you worked hard and know your ambitions and goals in life, there is no problem.

"I find myself not being able to sleep properly because I'm busy worrying about things that could go wrong. If I do manage to get a good sleep, I have usually had some sort of nightmare that I could not wake up from and usually wake up crying or in a cold sweat.
Most adults intimidate me and I cannot talk to most without crying mid-sentence. "

MY ANSWER: Our brain is an expert illusionist. Just because we think something could happen does not mean it will happen. Just because we think it is real does not mean it is truly real. So just because we think the adults might treat us bad does not mean they will treat us bad nor our life will end if they did. Like what I said, our brain is an expert illusionist. It is a trickster, it can deceive us.

One suggestion i would say is MEDITATE. Close your eyes, focus on your breath when you inhale and exhale through your nose. Try not to think about anything but only the sentiment when you inhale and exhale. If you did think of something, it is fine but go back to the focusing on your breath part. With that, you can have a better consciousness of oneself and your surroundings. It also has benefits and limits your stress. Look it up so you'll know more about it.

And yes, you do have anxiety. I recommend you to seek a therapist but also try to do the above suggestion.