Yeah, it's the fact that other people are ignorant and don't take the time of day to ever understand what someone else is like. It's what history is made of. People have been ashamed of being black or Asian or female or gay or disabled or perhaps in your case, autistic. Women feel ashamed of being single when they're 30. My point is you are as you are and you are wonderful and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. You may do some things differently than "everyone else" and that's true for each and every one of us in 1 respect or another. You should feel sorry for the people who don't ever take the time to understand what something like autism is about rather than be embarassed by them.
Yet at the same time, it's your job to educate them. Tell them what autism is about so that they can begin to understand it and gain knowledge and understanding rather than ignorance and frustration. I think they even have cards on the autism website that you can give to people if you'd like. Just a suggestion on my part.
Is there anything wrong with being autistic?
well im autistic and im abit ashammed and i wish i was normal
- There is nothing wrong with having Autism, despite what all of those "Autism recovery" websites imply.01
- I don't know, my cousin's autistic and I liked him heaps better than his sister. He was cool. ^^
Actually I'm really interested to learn more about autism.01
- From what I have saw on tv ,people being interviewed they have strong talents in something else. I'm thinking its usually music. No, there isn't anything wrong with it. If you ask an uncaring person they will say yes but they are going to be judgmental about all types of people.Everyone has their talents and everyone has their faults.
Besides most people find "normal" boring, too predictable. For one I bet you can type faster then me and I'm sure I've spent more time on the computer then you. You can email me if you have any questions...hang in there.00
- Being autistic is beautiful. My friends and I greatly support and love autism. It is one of the best conditions you can have, sometimes I wish I was autistic.00
- I have been autistic for 49 years, I have yet to find anything wrong with being autistic. In addition to autism I have 12 physical disabilities. Some of my disabilities like my crossed eyes, pronounced limp, bad vision and other things I could do without. I was never ashamed of being disabled because disabled life is all I have ever known. I wish I was normal too. I also wish I could drive but, what good does wishing for the impossible do me or you.You have autism which makes being autistic part of who you are as a person. Self hate is a powerful waste of a lot of physical and mental energy you can ill afford on a wish that will likely never come true.
Like you for years I tried to act normal and I was horrible at doing so. It took me 41 years to realize my attempts at being normal were futile. Trying to act normal caused me to continually fail at everything I did in life. My trying to act normal was fooling no one but, me and only because, I desperately wanted to be fooled!
During the time I was an autistic man acting normal my life was totally devoid of success. The problem with trying to act normal when you are autistic is the process is by its nature self limiting. When autistics try to act normal there is a cognitive limit beyond which we can not pass. To be autistic means many more complex social, political and other aspects of functioning neurotypical life will always be unknown to us. The cognitive limitations placed on us by autism functions as sort of a glass ceiling that prevent autistics from presenting the kind of flawless neurotypical act that might be mistaken as normal. Anyone who is autistic that was able to consistently present a flawless neurotypical act is likely not autistic at all.
You are driven by shame and shame is just another type of fear. Your not afraid of your autism. You are afraid of what people will think about you as an autistic man. Well you are fooling yourself if you think that these normal people you are trying to hide your autism from are already laughing at you. People laugh at you behind your back for the same reason they laughed at me. Hiding the autism only denies ignorant laughing people the name of whatever makes you a socially retarded odd ball in their eyes.
You are afraid to be autistic because, people might laugh, make cruel jokes, treat you different or deny you opportunities. News flash my autistic brother by hiding your autism people are already denying you all those things and more. By hiding your autism you make sure everyone around you stays ignorant about autism. If you reveal your autism in the proper ways and times you can use your autism to teach ignorant people so they become empowered allies instead of sniping fools laughing at your expense.
If you fail to reveal your autism how can caring people be empowered to help you. If you fail to empower people by sharing your autism experience how can you build the allies in life that can coach you on job and social skills development. My name is lonewolf here for a reason because, like you I wanted to keep my autism to myself out of shame while trying to live life on my terms alone. Lets face it my autistic brother you are not a bit ashamed you are totally ashamed of your autism. My question is; What has all that lifetime of shame brought you that has earned your life time of devotion. When I was ashamed of my autism all it brought me was endless pain, bitterness and failure in infinite variety.
It was not until I learned to first accept then love my being autistic that my life turned around. All the years I was hating and hiding my autism I languished on SSI, SSDI, Section 8 housing assistance and other welfare programs. Oh I volunteered helping others to improve my social skills but I never got close to success in life despite constantly trying. I was afraid of people finding out I was autistic. My grandparents taught me that I had to act normal as the only way to be successful. It was not till age 38 that I realized my grandparents were wrong!
In 1998 I started embracing my autism and teaching those people around me who wanted to learn to be my autism empowered allies. Autism allies are normal people who choose to be empowered by the truth about my autism inspired challenges instead of laughing on the sidelines at my lame normal act. It took many years of hard work but by 2000 I had gone to college for computers, got a 4.0 GPA, got a federal internship job, got a permanent federal job, got many promotions, brought a home and made an awesome life for myself in the community as a tax paying voting citizen.
It has not been easy being honest about my autism far from it. Not everyone will embrace news of your autism with open arms as the willfully ignorant bigot who mindlessly hates all who are different will always be among us. Your shame is just another form of fear and fears only purpose is to be overcome by your combined resources of love, reason, logic, intellect, joy, faith, skill and other positive life affirming attributes. Today I am often called upon to give this same message in speeches to parents, teachers and other professionals who care about autistic people.
I look at autism and see a unique abiding strength and wisdom this world needs where you see weakness and shame. In my 49 years of wisdom I have outgrown shame and fear of both my autism and what some willfully ignorant people think about it. I have grown strong fed and encouraged by people once ignorant about autism I have been able to empower as allies to our cause of justice for the autistic people in our world. You can continue to live in fear and shame or you can start living your autistic life in empowered truth. The choice to live in fear and shame is yours because, the failure fear breeds is always your choice and no one else's!31
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